When the past collides with your future, it must be the present.

How do we go into a new relationship and not carry the baggage from the last one over?



I was almost 8 years in with Justin (the ex). I've known him since I was 18. It was a whirlwind (read LDS) engagement and before I knew it I'd left Ricks College (read now, BYU-Idaho) with my MRS. degree and I thought I had life completely figured out.

7 years later and a pending divorce, there's alot I've learned. Some important stuff mixed in with trivial things like

*the game of football actually makes sense to me now-there's a life skill I NEED.

*Men love to talk about their shits. Seriously? I don't want to come look at it!!!



and I could probably go on if I thought hard enough about it. That's not why I'm here.

As I venture into a new love..I'm terrified of pinning Chris to the wall for things --that are fears, insecurities, or defenses from my old relationship. I find myself expecting him to react the same ways Justin would have, which isn't fair at all.



One thing I had to admit to myself was this. I am in the first romantic, ADULT, relationship of my life. I was a kid when I met Justin and we very much stayed in that space. Now, I know who I am and what I want. I have found someone that fufills those things and amazes me more and more each day.
Face it, I'm a goner. AND IM LOVING IT!!!

xoxox

h